just gotta get this off my chest...so to speak...!

Its been building for a few days, so i gotta get this out. i wont mention any names, or anything, as per tradition, BUT, i will, however, get a little pissy and mean......


     Dude, theres a fine line between abusing the rules, and just plain out breaking them, when it comes to sexual kinks, open relationships, and D/s relationships... I ve been in a few dooseys and not even I made any efforts to bullshit my partners, or straight out lie to them, just to get my rocks off. there are "rules" to be followed, so both sides of the equasion get the maximum amount to pleasure and enjoyment out of it. i know a few ppl out there, who recently, have thrown these set rules out the window, for their own personal gain, and its done nothing but cause their partners heartache, dischord, and stress.

   why do this to your partners? the best policy is to be honest and straightforward with the ppl you associate with, as to keep being able to "playing" with them. and the setting should also be mutual on all sides. if "you" play with someone, your partner should have the same right. if you have a girlfriend/boyfiend on the side, your partner should get the same privledges. fairness, is number one. Trust, is #2. it you cant trust your partner, DONT PLAY!  if you have trust issues with your partner...DONT PLAY! and #3, dont play if you cant being yourself to be honest with your partner. Honesty, is #3..

     one of the worst things to do to a person, is to play games with them, within this setting. dont bullshit your partners, absolutely dont lie to them, and if your gonna do either of those, be willing to a: cover up your lies, of B: man up when your caught, with the truth. a good heart is not something to abuse, no matter what the setting or kink.

     i hope that those who have been hurt, will realize that the rest of us out here, who have big hearts, who worrry about those close to us, who are willing at times to give our everything to those we truely care about, will remember we are here for them when they need us. we love all of you, and we will be there to defend you, and love you when those who cant be truthful, honest, caring, and loving, who also bullshit their playmates cant.

     now that ive gotten that off my chest, i feel alot better. and for the one person who will read this, who has been recently hurt, just know, your truthfully loved, no matter what.


-MAD LOVE to all. -H